It's easy to find the right person for the right one, but it's hard to know if two people are a good match. Do not love each other to see the fate, the agreement is not appropriate to rely on their own fire eyes. Through these four aspects, you can see the general appearance of a person, understand her past and present, and have a basic judgment about whether she is suitable or not.
1. Family of origin
Everyone's marriage life will have some of the shadow of the family of origin, so it might as well take each other's family as a reference. Family of origin is just one aspect of knowing each other, it's not a screening criterion, so don't give up on each other just because the other is living in a single parent or an unhappy family, it's more important to know about the other's parents' divorce or why the family atmosphere is dissonant than just knowing the results.
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What are your hobbies?
There is no difference between high and low, but it can reflect a person's character as well as his spiritual world.
Good at what?
What you are good at, you can see the abilities and strengths of the other person, and you can also show a person's value. More importantly, hearing what she is good at can reveal how she sees her own value, whether she thinks she is omnipotent or worthless, and thus whether a person is inferior or conceited. How she rated herself also reflected a person's level of self-esteem.
How do you make a decision?
Ask her about her usual decision-making process, which can reveal whether she is emotional or rational, decisive or hesitant, thinking mode, understanding and analytical ability, etc. If she needs to communicate and coordinate with others in the decision-making process, it can also find out how she handles differences and unifies different ideas.
How do you spend your income?
Any relationship inevitably involves financial issues, with many couples breaking up just because of a huge gap in spending attitudes. Understand in advance how she will distribute her income and consumption structure, have a preliminary understanding of her money and consumption concept, and communicate in advance if she feels inappropriate.
3. Interpersonal relationship
When one partner fails to deal with the opposite sex, intimacy, intimacy, and even infidelity can lead to a breakdown of trust and relationships. In the beginning, try to discuss how to deal with friendship with the opposite sex, how to understand the bottom line of dealing with the opposite sex, which situations may break through the bottom line, how to deal with disputes caused by this issue and the demands on each other.
Unless both partners don't care about sex, it's hard for relationships with incompatible partners to be stable and long-lasting. After all, sex is also an important way for both parties to communicate and increase intimacy. However, do not walk into a mistake: sexual relations only rely on practice to communicate, because what it expresses cannot replace language. To reach an agreement on the issue of sex, you need to understand Chinese girls attitudes to the issue of sex, whether you are willing to communicate and share your feelings on the issue, how the two sides view sex in a relationship, sex outside of a relationship and how they would like to deal with sexual problems.
All of these four core aspects of the relationship can be used as a way to get to know each other directly, and in the process of getting to know each other, it's natural to know whether you can accept the other person's characteristics, to compare and match, and whether you're really fit.